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Nothing is more satisfying to a parent than watching their children grow up to become well-rounded and law-abiding citizens who are doing really well in their various lives. But this never happens in a vacuum. Raising well-balanced children requires a lot of work and dedication on both the part of the parents and the kids.
And kids being who they are, tend to mirror or follow what parents show them as they grow. This is why you need to be very careful about what you do and how you do things in front of the kids.
In this post, we’ll be sharing some pretty powerful information on how you can raise children o will make you proud. Whether you’re just raising your first child or the fourth one, the tips here will definitely help you achieve those goals.
Invest in Quality Child Care
This is particularly important if you’re a very busy parent. Many parents often struggle with locating and identifying great child care services that can help take care of their kids while they’re away at work. It’s not just enough to have the kids be placed at any child care center.
The right services are optimally designed to help the children grow, learn, and meet the children’s needs while the parents aren’t there. And they make your life much easier. You want to make sure that your mind will be at peace while your kids are with the child caregivers.
Look for child care services with professionals –preferably college-educated at the least- who have the right learning and play tools, have a solid schedule, teach the kids communication, and help the kids be more independent.
Pay Attention to their Formal Education
Even though you’re paying for the kid’s education and are doing a great job of it, it’s also important to keep tabs on what they’re doing in school, help them with their assignments –you may need a fraction calculator among other things, and even get them private tutors when necessary.
It’s not enough for you to just assume that the school will teach the kids everything they need to know. You have to be on top of that too. For instance, unless you’re involved, you may not quickly detect that a child is dyslexic or dealing with dyscalculia.
You’ll just end up wondering why you’re paying so much and the child seems to be struggling to produce good grades and results. Plus, you don’t want to have to be called to the child’s school in the middle of an important meeting just because you didn’t notice these things.
Encourage Them to Learn Multiple Languages
Children who learn and know how to speak multiple languages not only create new neural pathways in their brains, they are also more likely to become successful in life. This is because the cognitive benefits associated with learning are transferable to other areas of their academics.
This is probably why bilingual or multilingual kids tend to do better academically than kids who only know or learn one language. So, encourage your kids to learn at least one more language apart from English.
Teach Empathy and Compassion
Now more than ever, there’s the need for kids to be taught how to be optimistic, empathetic, and compassionate. These days, children are developing anxiety and panic attacks because of what they’ve been exposed to.
For example, some kids become depressed over the impact of climate change on the world. And while it’s a good thing that children are becoming more aware of the issues plaguing the world, they aren’t being taught the right skills that will help them have a more balanced perspective.
This is why parents need to help children look at the bright side of life, instead of just staying focused on the negative aspects. Teach them kindness, thoughtfulness, generosity, and selflessness. Children who practice and internalize these things are less likely to become depressed when they become teenagers and adults.
Help Them Develop Self-Discipline
While some kids are naturally disciplined and focused, most kids need to be taught how to stick to something and make the most of it. This is important because children have a penchant for “wandering” and are easily distracted.
Disciplined kids tend to perform better academically, excel in sports, and generally do better than those who aren’t as disciplined. They are also much more likely to succeed in the future.
And this makes sense because self-discipline is the bedrock on which habits like persistence, consistency, and grit are built. This is where they also learn how to make decisions, and understand how powerful the decisions they make can be. Teach them discipline and patience and show them how not to give up on things easily.
Encourage Their Creativity
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Creativity is a key aspect of personal development and growth. As a parent, it’s important to help your child discover and develop their creative flair. Encourage them to ask questions, expose them to new ideas, take them to art shows and museums, provide them with creative toys, and allow them to have free time.
This is particularly important if parents are more inclined towards implementing a structured schedule. Allow the kids to play and have fun too –this is where their creativity is nurtured.
Cultivate a Healthy Relationship With Them
Balance isn’t only about work, school, sports, and art. It’s also about relationships. The reality is that apart from an instructional/superior relationship, many parents do not have any relationship with their kids.
And children who do not have a great relationship with their parents tend to hide things from them. The best way to get your child to trust you and want to talk to you is by being relatable, kind, and interested. Children learn by watching and absorption.
If you teach and show them that you’re genuinely interested in them, they’ll open up to you. More importantly, they’ll take those skills and use them in their personal and professional lives.
Finally, ensure you have a great relationship with your partner. Children pick up on things like that. A great relationship between spouses creates a warm environment where your kids can flourish. Most importantly, it sets a standard for the children, thus improving their chances of being well-rounded as they grow older.